You've learned that a narcissist does what a narcissist wants when he wants. And he'll do what you want as long as that is what he wants. Your needs and wants are hard or impossible for a narcissist to remember unless they serve the narcissist directly. If you ask the narcissist in your life to take care of something on your behalf, it may or may not get handled. If things not getting handled upsets you or causes you problems then you might want to consider not relying on the narcissist. Rely on yourself or draw upon other resources to help you.
If you are in any sort of partnership with a narcissist, then you might think that your needs are also the needs of the narcissist, and that you should be able to rely on his support. Watch to see if this is true. You're likely to notice the same pattern. Again, you may want to consider which of your needs really don't coincide directly with those of the narcissist. Be aware that you should handle these things yourself.
So, Tip #6: Take care of what you need and wants yourself. Be aware that the narcissist may not do things you request unless they specifically also meet the needs of the narcissist.
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